It’s your fault.
If you want to change something.
No matter what happened, no matter how, why anything, accept that it is your fault.
Until you are responsible how can you change it?
Nagging and screaming may work for children some of the time, but who wants to be at the mercy of someone else to be responsible your own life?
Once you have accepted reponsibility, then you can begin to figure out how things ended up the way they did and change circumstances accordingly. Whether it is a change in attitude, tonality, word choice, physical action, diet, or one of thousands of other factors, you have the ability to change your own circumstances.
But not until you accept.
It’s your fault!